e weren’t fighting. We just weren’t… anything.
We passed like ships in the night. Diaper handoff. Dinner cleanup. Collapse into bed. Repeat.
I missed him. But I was too tired to do anything about it.
Then a friend mentioned the 10-Minute Rule.
Here’s how it works:
Every night, after the kids are in bed, we spend 10 minutes together on the couch. No phones. No TV. No problem-solving. Just us.
We ask three questions:
What was hard for you today?
What made you smile?
What do you need from me tonight?
That’s it. Ten minutes.
Sometimes we talk the whole time. Sometimes we just sit. Sometimes one of us falls asleep.
But those 10 minutes reminded us that we’re not just co-parents. We’re people who chose each other.
Try it tonight. Put the phones down. Set a timer. Ask the first question.
Question for you: What’s one small way you and your partner stay connected in the chaos?
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